Women, Virginity, Sex, and Pain
The other night my boyfriend and I were lying on my bed watching our usual late night vhs, this night was KIDS. If you haven’t seen KIDS, it’s basically about a bunch of high school kids living in NY. The main character is a boy who makes it is main and only objective to have sex with virgins. In this movie, it shows him wooing many different young girls until he eventually talks them into sleeping with them. Once he woos each of them, it shows him fucking each girl with no care as to how the sex feels on her end (of course this isn’t surprising to the audience given the type of guy he’s personified as. Although, this got me thinking. All my life I was taught that sex was supposed to hurt for women the first time. But let me tell you now: THIS IS 100% NOT TRUE AT ALL NOT EVEN A LITTLE BIT. No matter how “large” the man on the other end is, it should not hurt. If it hurts, it simply means your partner is unaware of foreplay, or he’s an asshole who doesn’t give a shit about you.
I think it’s crazy that women are taught this, and I think it’s crazy that I had to find out how wrong this was on my own. And that is why I want all young ladies who have yet to experience this stepping stone in their life to know this bit of info that most women do not find out until a lot later, if ever.